How having friends can SAVE you time
Your friends are weird. SO ARE MINE and I couldn't be happier!
“One secret of life is that the reason life works at all is that not everyone in your tribe is nuts on the same day. Another secret is that laughter is carbonated holiness”
― Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith.
Thank goodness this is true, not only because my friends and family save my booty on a daily basis, but because it leads me right into productivity tip #4.
4) Have good people in your life who you can ask for help when you need it. You would not believe how often people ask me "What does George (my husband) think about you being gone all the time?" George is fine y'all. Because George understands that this phase of extreme travel is not forever. As I scale my business I'll be able to do more and more online training, workshops, and lessons and will not need to hustle the same amount I do now.
I also have an EQUAL PARTNERSHIP with my husband and informed him early on in our dating that my ovaries didn't make me any better at sweeping the floor than him. So he does his least hated jobs, and I outsource the other ones to my kids when I'm gone.
They're going to ask me for money anyway, so they might as well work for it. Also, did I mention they live in my house for FREE? Yep, so that means it won't kill them to load a dishwasher or put up their own laundry. Hear me guys and repeat it to yourself often:
I AM RAISING FUTURE ADULTS, NOT FUTURE CHILDREN and those current little people will spend MOST of their lives being grown-ups and need to know how to operate the world past the age of 18 without a ton of help from me!
It probably also helps that I do not feel an obligation (or any guilt) to keep my FOUR children entertained 24/7. Kids are going to get bored because Adults get bored. Life is not always exciting and that's just a fact. This doesn't mean I don't carve out time to hang out with my kids. I go to soccer games and ballet recitals and take the fam out to Top Golf, but when we're home I don't feel like I HAVE to be playing with them all the time to keep them entertained. It's ok to be bored. It's ok for them to be outside playing basketball for an hour and me be inside working for an hour as long as every hour is not being taken up by work and you're devoting time to your kids trust me, they're probably ok.
I also have developed a killer friend group who I have no problem asking them to pick up the kids or take them places. This was not easy and took years, but what I did was look specifically for people I could be 100% myself with and they still liked me. REAL people is what I needed. You know how when someone asks you to occasionally grab their kid at school and you're already there you don't really mind that much. That's how MOST other people feel about helping you out with your kids, work, life. Then when I have seasons that are not so busy I do the same for them. THERE IS NO TROPHY COMING FOR MOST EXHAUSTED PARENT! Nobody is going to call you up at awards day and say, "this parent spent more time meeting the needs of everyone else than themselves and was on the brink of a nervous breakdown and survived". There's no trophy for that guys! Find a tribe, ASK FOR HELP. It doesn't make you weak it makes you smart.
Need help finding a tribe? Email me and I can give you some suggestions of great places to find like-minded people and form a good group!
Have an awesome day and be your best self!